Self control is one of the most important traits of character and when exercised, makes one feel very good about oneself.
- Begin the process with a strong motivator to experience the good feeling of self-control.
- Think about and review desired behavior before entering challenging situation.
- Develop clear definition and picture of success.
- Picture and imagine yourself succeeding before entering challenging situation.
- Keep record of behavior and review regularly.
- Reward yourself for your successes.
- Work together with a friend or mentor to help and guide the process.
- Repeat often actions which represent self-control to instill that trait in your personality.
- Study Torah sources which discuss the importance of this process and specific areas that need self-control.
- Pray to Hashem to help you develop, exercise and maintain self-control.
